Everyone has a certain way in which they best receive love from others. Theses different demonstrations are boiled down into five categories as expressed in Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages. Recently, I have written about the first three which are words of affirmation, quality time, and receiving gifts. The fourth love language is acts of service.
Acts of service are more than simply doing something for someone. One whose primary love languages is acts of service sees their significant other’s love displayed in this manner.
The thoughtfulness of helping out, if they are tired or stressed, goes a long way. Unlike words of affirmation, they rather see love shown through actions.
4 Kinds of Acts of Service
1. Act of kindness– An out of the blue act that shows generosity. An example would be letting your spouse choose where they desire to go
for the day, or dedicating the day to whatever they want to do.
2. Act of easing a burden– This act helps lessen the load of your partner. When you see they are stressed, tired, or overwhelmed, and you
pick up some responsibilities that you normally would not. Maybe your spouse usually cooks dinner but you decide to surprise them with a nice
dinner and even do the dishes afterwards as well.
3. Act of selflessness-Sacrificing something you want to do for what your significant other rather do. Your spouse does not want to get up
during the night again and stay up with the baby. So you give up your sleep time so they can relax and sleep.
4. Act of thoughtfulness-Any act that shows you are truly thinking about your partner’s wants and needs. Something as simple as
opening the car door for your wife shows your love for her. A wife letting her husband feel needed by asking him to open the peanut butter jar for her sometimes.
Sometimes the littlest acts of service can speak the loudest, especially to those whose love language is acts of service. They associate those gestures with love.
Jesus’ Acts of Service
In John 13:1-17, Jesus knew he was about to die and return to God in which he came from. When they are at dinner he took off his outer clothing and wrapped a towel around his waist. Jesus proceeded to wash his disciple’s feet.
Afterwards, he tells them “Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him”.
If Jesus can wash the feet of sinners, no one should beneath us to serve. Especially not your husband or wife whom you love. You should be overjoyed to please them and openly express your love to them.