I know everyone has heard this saying a million and one times, but hearing and applying are two very different actions. This is why I am here to challenge you to be selfless and put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
6 Steps to Put Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes
1. Take yourself and the benefit’s you would receive totally out of the scenario.
2. Then imagine how it would make you feel.
3. Ask yourself if it would hurt you.
4. Ask yourself if it would make you feel loved.
5. Ask yourself if you would want that said/done to you.
6. If not, then stop right there. Do not say but it is different because I’m a woman/man, or I trust myself, etc. Just stop. That is a double standard and double standard’s are never justified.
If you do not find it appropriate to be done to you then it most likely is selfish and will hurt the other person.
However, I will draw the line of respect and manipulation. If someone is trying to hold you back from doing things then I would suggest the importance of getting to the root cause.
Real Life Example
For an example, my ex-boyfriend would not want to hang out with my friends. He would get mad and make excuses in order to avoid it. I came to later find out it is because of his jealousy and insecurity that he would not want to be around my friends. He wanted all my attention.
Those are selfish motives. Although, you should still be conscious of people’s insecurities, I do not believe you should although them to deprive others of the things/activities/people that bring them joy.
Therefore, I express the importance of putting yourself in the other person’s situation before deciding if they are right or wrong.
If there is a question or disagreement about who is right always pray and look into God’s word. Both reveal the perfect example we should strive to be like, Jesus Christ.
Philippians 2:4, Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
If you would like to learn more about loving one another visit my blogs on the Five Love Languages. If you would like to join a church that offers this information you can visit Origins Church located in Mason, Ohio or connect with people on the Inbound Church.