This past weekend, one of my music ensembles went on a choir tour in the Cincinnati and Columbus areas. We played our home concert tonight….and it was awesome to see all 16 of us bond together and celebrate God on campus.
When I first started Synergy as a keyboardist and pianist, I had no idea how to apply a chord chart. I also had not played anything remotely to do with improv. While I have a long way to go before I am nearly as versatile as my bandmates that play 6 instruments by ear, I am grateful for all I have learned thus far.
This was a break-through because I am used to getting what I need done and going straight to doing homework whenever possible. Thus, I would miss out on all the relationship-oriented activities that would create deeper bonds. This is crucial to fully be immersed in the music.
Top Three Ways to Connect with Your Bandmates
1. Find ways to help with set-up. You might learn something.
As a classically trained pianist, I did not have much experience with sound technology until I attended a contemporary worship oriented college. This will seem awkward at first, especially if your teammates can probably get the job done faster than you. However, it helps decrease barriers because you show you actually care instead of just “showing up” because you have to. It also helps you appreciate what someone else has to do.
2. Write encouragement notes to band members. Maybe throw in a favorite snack or other treat.
This is something my choir director is having us do on my next tour, which is the week after next. You can assign one person to every member. Pray for the person and write periodic notes leading up to the event.
3. Try to find a way to engage in conversation when people are standing around.
One thing I miss about the era before cell phones is the fact that people actually interacted more face-to-face when these technologies weren’t as “smart.” While people still talk to their buddies, it’s not quite like it used to be. Thus, if you haven’t developed a relationship yet with someone, it may be harder to engage in conversation with someone then other people who have developed a closer relationship already.
A great way to counter this is to “people watch.” Observe any hobbies or passions that that person has, and try to find a connection there. Also, keep trying. My habit when I am in a situation where I may feel isolated is to reach for the textbook. Thus, I study to distract me. However, I chose to embrace this vulnerability this year on tour. When I faced it head-on, I realized the fear of rejection did not impact me as much.
“So in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.”-Romans 12:5
Check out this Connect Worship blog from Brian Morrissey.
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